Green Flags
He asks about your life, remembers what you said, compliments you without making it about your body alone, and suggests meeting somewhere public in daylight.
Advice from the curvy side of dating
Dating as a Plus Size Woman: Walk Tall and Enjoy It
Where to date, what to say about your size, and how to spot the good ones early.
You Deserve Someone Who Is Excited About You
Dating as a plus size woman goes best when you date where you are wanted, show yourself honestly from the start, and give your time to people who are clearly glad to have met you. That is the short version. Everything below is how to put it into practice, for women new to dating, coming back after years away or simply worn out by apps that make them feel like an afterthought.
Choose Where You Date
General apps can work, and many plus size women have met partners on them. But they make you do all the sorting. Every match is a question mark: does he like curvy women, or did he swipe without looking? A plus size dating site turns that around. On Curvy Dates, men and women who prefer fuller figures joined specifically to meet you, and that changes how every conversation starts.
Many women do both: a profile on a general app for the big numbers, and one on a curvy dating site for the people most likely to be a good fit. If you are weighing options, our guide asks is there a dating site for plus size women and compares them all.
Do You Need to Mention Your Size?
On a plus size dating site, no. Your photos and the words you tick, curvy, BBW, plus sized, say it for you. On a general app, it is your choice. Some women add a light line such as "curvy and happy about it" so that anyone who is not interested moves on. Others prefer to let the photos speak. Either way, the important thing is the photos: one clear face shot and one full-length picture, taken recently. It is not about warning people; it is about letting the ones who will love what they see find you quickly.
What you never owe anyone is an explanation. Your health, your diet and your history are not topics for a first message. If someone asks, you can change the subject or end the conversation. Our plus size dating profile tips show how to write a profile that feels like you.
Read the signs early
Green Flags and Red Flags
Most of the information you need arrives in the first few messages.
Red Flags
Comments about your weight in the first message, a push for explicit photos, reluctance to be seen with you in public, or any talk of money.
The Quiet Sign
How you feel after chatting. If you come away lighter, carry on. If you come away smaller, block and move on without guilt.
Plan a First Date That Suits You
Choose the venue yourself if you can. Comfortable chairs with arms you can move, tables rather than high stools, somewhere you know the toilets are easy to reach, and a dress or outfit you have worn before and love. None of this is about hiding; it is about removing small worries so you can enjoy the person in front of you. Our first date ideas for curvy singles and date night outfit guide have plenty of suggestions.
On the day, eat what you would normally eat. Order the pasta. A man who has chosen a curvy dating site is not going to be put off by dessert, and if he is, you have learned something useful.
Confidence Is a Practice, Not a Feeling
Very few people feel confident before a first date, whatever their size. Confidence is mostly behaviour: arriving on time, making eye contact, asking a question you are genuinely curious about, and leaving when you want to. Do those things and you will look confident even if your stomach is doing somersaults. After a few dates, it stops being an act.
If you would like to read the other side, our guide to dating a plus size woman is written for the men who want to get it right.
Your Questions
Is Dating Harder for Plus Size Women?
On general apps it can feel that way, because you have to find the people who prefer curves. On a plus size dating site, those people are the ones looking for you.
Should I Use Full-Length Photos?
Yes. A recent full-length photo helps the people who love your figure find you, and means there are no surprises on either side.
What Do I Do If Someone Is Rude About My Size?
Block and report them. On Curvy Dates, fat-shaming breaks the community rules, and moderators act on reports.
Which App Is Best for Plus Size Women?
One built for curvy singles is the easiest start. See our comparisons for Curvy Dates, WooPlus, BBWCupid and more.
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