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Plus Size Dating Profile Tips: Let Them See You
Photos, words and first messages for curvy singles, big men and admirers.
A Great Plus Size Profile Is Honest, Warm and Specific
The best plus size dating profiles do three things: they show you clearly with recent photos, they sound like a real person rather than a list, and they make it easy for someone to start a conversation. Nothing about that is different for curvy singles, except one thing: on a curvy dating site, showing your figure works in your favour, because the people looking are hoping to find exactly you.
Photos: Show the Real You
- The main photo: your face, smiling, in daylight, taken in the last year. No sunglasses, no filters that change your shape.
- A full-length photo: standing, relaxed, in something you love. On a curvy dating site this is the photo admirers look for.
- Doing something: cooking, walking the dog, at a gig, on holiday. It gives people an easy first question.
- With friends, sparingly: one at most, and make sure it is obvious which one is you.
Avoid the classic plus size habits of cropping at the shoulders, hiding behind a friend or shooting only from above. They are understandable after years on general apps, but here they only make it harder for the people who would love your figure to find you. Photos are screened on upload, and explicit pictures are blurred until someone chooses to see them.
Your Bio: Three or Four Sentences That Sound Like You
Write the way you would talk to a new friend at a party. Say what a good weekend looks like, one thing you are into at the moment, and what you are hoping to find. That is enough. For example: "Sunday walks along the coast, a proper roast afterwards, and a box set I am a bit too invested in. I laugh easily and I am a good listener. Looking for someone kind to share dinners and adventures with."
Leave out the list of things you do not want. "No time-wasters, no players, no drama" tells a reader more about your last bad date than about you. Keep it positive, and use the block button for the people who do not fit.
Use the Right Words for You
On Curvy Dates you can describe yourself with terms such as BBW, SSBBW, BBBW, BHM, curvy, plus sized, voluptuous or cuddly and plump, and say which you are looking for. Choose the ones you are happy to be called on a date. Matching takes them into account, so being specific means better matches. If you are unsure what they all mean, read what BBW means.
First Messages That Get Replies
The best first message shows you read their profile. Pick one detail and ask about it: "Your photo from the Lake District looks amazing, which walk was that?" beats "Hi gorgeous" every single time. Keep it short, end with a question, and save compliments about their body for later, when you know each other better. If you are an admirer, read dating a plus size woman before you write.
If messaging feels daunting, start in the discovery feed. A warm comment on someone's post is an easy way to get noticed, and you can do it on a free account. Our free BBW dating page explains what free members can do.
Profile Questions
What Should I Write in a Plus Size Dating Bio?
Three or four friendly sentences about how you spend your time, what you enjoy and what you are hoping for. Skip the list of dislikes.
Do I Need a Full-Length Photo?
It helps a lot. On a curvy dating site, it is the photo the people who love your figure look for first.
Can I Keep My Face Private?
Yes. You can start without face photos and share more once you trust someone, though a clear smile makes it much easier for people to say hello.