Coffee and Cake
The classic for a reason. Choose an independent café with armchairs or proper tables, and share a slice of something good.
Dates you can relax on
First Date Ideas for Curvy Singles: Easy and Fun
Comfortable, sociable and low-pressure, so the only thing to think about is each other.
The Best First Dates Are Short, Public and Comfortable
The best first date ideas for curvy singles are ones where you can sit comfortably, talk easily and leave gracefully after an hour or two if you want to. Think a café with proper chairs, a gallery with benches, a pub garden or a gentle walk ending at a tea room. Save the theme park, the tiny restaurant booth and the hilltop hike for later, when you know each other.
Daytime
Daytime Dates That Take the Pressure off
Daylight dates feel calmer, and they are the safest choice for a first meeting.
A Gallery or Museum
Built-in conversation, benches every few rooms and usually a café at the end. Most of the UK's big national museums are free to enter.
A Market Wander
Food stalls, a little browsing and plenty to talk about. Pick a covered market in winter.
Garden Centre or Botanic Garden
Flat paths, lots of benches and a tea room. Lovely for anyone who prefers a quieter date.
Evening Dates With a Bit More Sparkle
- A pub with a good garden or snug. Relaxed, cheap and easy to leave after one drink or stay for three.
- Dinner somewhere you know. Book a table rather than a booth, and pick a menu you will both enjoy without fuss.
- A comedy night or quiz. Laughter breaks the ice, and a quiz gives you a team to be on.
- Cinema then a drink. Look for cinemas with roomy sofa or recliner seating, then talk about the film afterwards.
- A cookery or pottery class. Something to do with your hands takes the pressure off the conversation.
What to Check Before You Book
A few quiet checks remove a lot of worry. Look at photos of the venue online to see the seating. Check whether there is a walk from the car park or station, and how steep it is. If it is a busy bar, check whether you can book a table. None of this is fussy; it simply lets you relax and enjoy the person in front of you.
If you are the one asking someone out, offer two or three options and let them choose. It is thoughtful and it means they can pick what feels comfortable without having to explain why. Our guide to dating a plus size woman has more for admirers, and our date night outfit ideas cover what to wear.
Stay Safe and Enjoy It
Choose a public place, arrange your own transport, and let someone you trust know your plans. Look for a verified badge before you meet, and never hand over money to a match. Our safety page covers it all. For local favourites, look at your city on our UK locations pages.
First Date Questions
What Is a Good First Date for a Plus Size Person?
Somewhere public and comfortable with proper seating, such as a café, a gallery, a pub garden or a gentle walk ending at a tea room.
How Long Should a First Date Be?
An hour or two is ideal. Long enough to get a feel for each other, short enough to leave on a high.
Who Should Choose the Venue?
Either of you, but offering a couple of options and letting the other person pick is a kind, easy way to do it.